Putting Yourself First: Why You’re Not Selfish, You’re Essential

Imagine you’re on a 14-hour flight. Everyone on board is hungry. There are babies crying, dogs needing attention, elderly passengers, the flight attendants, the crew, and even the pilot. The flight crew searches high and low and discovers… there’s no food on the plane. Panic starts to set in.

Finally, someone remembers: the pilot has a single sandwich. Who should eat it?

Let’s list it out:

• Babies

• Children

• Elderly passengers

• Pets

• Flight attendants

• Other crew members

• The pilot

The answer is the pilot.

Why? Because if the pilot doesn’t eat, the plane doesn’t make it safely to its destination. No one else’s needs can be met if the person responsible for keeping the plane in the air isn’t taken care of first.

This is the same principle we need to apply in our everyday lives. Parents, caregivers, and anyone who constantly puts others first—you can’t pour from an empty cup. You can’t show up fully for your family, your friends, or your work if you’re not taking care of yourself.

Putting yourself first doesn’t mean ignoring those you love—it means making sure you’re healthy, strong, and energized so you can give your best to everyone around you.

Here’s how you can start:

• Schedule your workouts: Find a class, join a gym, or set a regular time for your favorite activity.

• Move every day: Even a 20-minute walk counts.

• Prioritize your mental health: Take time for meditation, journaling, or just breathing.

• Fuel your body: Eat meals that nourish you and give you energy to show up for life.

This is your time. Your health and fitness aren’t selfish—they’re essential. Take care of yourself first, and you’ll find that everyone around you benefits too.

Remember: you’re the pilot of your own life. Make sure you’re fed, fueled, and ready to soar.